We all want to be happy, and the idea of happiness as a learned skill has never been more popular. Searching for happiness offers us all a glimmer of hope—from Baby Boomers pining for the joys of the past, to young adults experiencing record levels of loneliness, anxiety, and burnout. Who doesn’t want a reprieve from our collective malaise as we slowly emerge from the pandemic? In part, these desires to live happier are being fueled by a constant stream of well-intended messages trying to inspire positivity in a time of crisis. If only reacquainting ourselves with happiness were that simple. In the words of fellow author Rupi Kaur, “Happiness grew old waiting for me, and I grew old searching for happiness in places it did not live.” Many of us fall into the trap of thinking we’d be better off if we could just activate our “happiness switch,” but …