Commentary The other night, my wife and I went out to dinner with friends. At the restaurant, when everyone sat down, I remained standing. “My wife,” I exclaimed loudly, “is rude, mean, and stupid. She needs to change; she needs to become a better person. I am making this announcement because I want her to change to be a better person. I want you to all keep an eye on her and criticize her when she does something wrong. Just like I do.” I then sat down. Needless to say, I slept on the guest bed that night. And many nights after that. Now my good friends know that story isn’t true. I would never treat my wife with such disrespect. I love her. I do want her to be a better person, just like I want to be a better person myself. But I wouldn’t announce that in a …