A mother brought her 9-year-old son to my clinic. The boy beat someone at school, and the teacher told the parent. The mother said, “I don’t know what to do with him. Scolding does not work, nor does punishment.” I asked, “Can you tell me something he is good at?” The mother said, “He doesn’t have any. No matter what I say, all he does is talk back.” If you think there is nothing good about a child, then this is the issue. Many children’s behavioral issues actually result from parents’ or caregivers’ methods of educating the children. Theres a line from a Chinese classic: “not educating a child is the fault of the father; not being strict in a child’s education is the laziness of the teacher.” Of course, it’s not all the father or teacher’s fault. Parents effectively exhaust themselves to educate and bring up their children, but …