The first time someone suggested I stop trying to think up a solu­tion to the situation I was trying desperately to solve, it sounded like a lovely idea. But truth be told, I had no idea how to put this advice into action. Resolution, for me, had always meant understand­ing what was happening, what it meant, and most of all, knowing what to do about it. Resolution had always involved excessive and obsessive think­ing. If I didn’t want to live in anxiety and feel utterly unmoored, I had to solve the questions that were still unsolved. I had to think more, not less, about my difficulties. Living peacefully and not having the answers were incompatible; I needed a plan, a way out of the situation, not a comfy chair inside it. But over time, I realized that despite all the thinking humanly possi­ble, there were important questions in my life …