We all know someone who can arrive at a party or meeting full of strangers and leave a few hours later having made several new friends. Here’s how they do it.
Smile and Nod
A genuine smile is a very effective nonverbal signal that lets people know you are enjoying being in their presence. Charismatic people radiate a positive attitude by nodding as the other person speaks, smiling when the other person smiles, and mirroring the other person’s body language. They also know to avoid frowning, smirking, or making other negative facial expressions.
Pay Attention
People like others who listen to their stories and make and maintain eye contact. It’s rude and disconcerting to be looking everywhere except at the person who’s talking or is part of the conversation. Ask appropriate questions to learn more about them such as “How do you know the host?” or “Did you grow up here?” Listen more than you talk; don’t interrupt them or talk over them; be patient and truly listen to what they’re saying—you may learn something valuable. Remember their name and use it in conversation, as this is respectful and conveys a level of comfort that’s endearing….