Dear Married Couples, Do you still feel love for the person you married? I truly hope so. But in many marriages, feelings of closeness are superseded by negative emotions. So since Valentine’s Day is coming, I’d like to share some ideas for how to create a love that can endure life’s ups and downs. When I say love, I’m of course not talking about the butterflies-in-stomach, excited, in-love feeling. This type of very romantic, blissful love, the kind we celebrate on Valentine’s Day, usually lasts only a couple of years. But beyond this honeymoon phase, it is possible—through effort, sacrifice, and sometimes a readjustment of priorities—to maintain warmth, connection, and a deep appreciation for your spouse. Love Languages The concept of “love languages” was crystallized from the work of counselor and author Gary Chapman who spent years trying to understand why couples coming to him said they were expressing love …