Dear June, My wife is about to retire and I am already retired. We’re “middle-middle class” economically and have less than six figures put away for a savings cushion. Our 30-year-old daughter is a full-time college loan officer professional at $55K per year and will have her MBA next year as well. She has lived on her own and has been financially independent since age 19. She is distance dating (they see one another several times per year) a younger college man who comes from wealth. He will soon graduate and we are anticipating wedding bells soon. In today’s society, am I wrong to ask her to pay for her own wedding? How is it handled these days? We simply could not afford a wedding and really feel she should handle this under the circumstances. We prefer to come as guests and give a modest gift. We’re thinking (ahead) that the …