Dear June, I need your help on how to feel loving to my passive-aggressive husband. He frequently criticizes me, calls me negative [things], and complains about being underappreciated. He then denies he’s doing these things. When I put a new shrub or flowers in our yard, he will water the grass around it but avoid watering the plant I just put in. This seems crazy to me and makes me want to get out of the marriage and quit wasting my life with someone like this. Can you advise me? Kim, Alabama Dear Kim, This sounds frustrating and challenging, and indeed something needs to change. But don’t give up hope yet, as this kind of dynamic can be transformed. As a woman, you probably have much more power than you realize to bring about this transformation. And your kindness, gentleness, and respect for your husband will be key. I recently heard …