Category: Mindset

Lockdown Study Finds Undiagnosed Mental Health Crisis Among New Mothers

New mothers experienced worryingly high rates of depression and anxiety during the first lockdown, our new research has revealed. One of the major contributing factors to them feeling this way was the psychological impact of social distancing measures. Our study examined the psychological and social experiences of more than 600 women with babies between birth and…


Why You Can’t Think Your Way to Happiness

We spend our early years learning how to walk, talk, read, play sports, have conversations, and so on. We come to believe that knowing things is crucial for our happiness and survival. Knowing makes us valid, valuable, and powerful. Knowing makes us belong. Knowing also gives us a sense of control. If we can know something, we believe we can control it….


7 Reasons a Small-Town Lifestyle Can Make You Happier

Almost every time my wife, Heather, and I used to go on vacation, we’d spend time during the car or plane ride home going back and forth about how nice it would be to live full-time in the destination we had just visited. By the time we got home, we inevitably talked ourselves out of…


3 Ways to Win Your Day—and Celebrate

We tend to go through our days with our noses to the grindstone, doing tasks, getting distracted, jumping from one thing to the next. Go to sleep tired, repeat the next day.  Our days become an endless cycle of getting stuff done and getting through to the next day—especially during this pandemic. What would it…


Get Ready for the Next Chapter in Your Life

In screenplay and novel writing, the inciting incident is the event that gets the story rolling. It’s the action or decision that introduces the problem that the story’s main character must overcome. In “Jerry Maguire,” it’s the moment that Jerry writes his manifesto about the need to put people first in the sports agency business….


COVID-19 Through the Eyes of a Child

“COVID is where you die.” So said my 3-year-old grandson, John Henry, when I asked him what he knew about COVID-19. Like many people, I come across online articles warning of the negative effects of the virus on young people nearly every day. While only a tiny number of them have died from COVID-19, and…


Can a Relationship Recover From Resentment?

Resentment is poisonous to a relationship.


Growing Up in a Culture of Empty Cheers

My babysitter gave my 10-year-old daughter a scrapbook. The sparkly pink binder was filled with adorable photos of the two of them eating ice cream, drinking smoothies, ice skating, wearing rainbow wigs, dancing to TikTok videos, and all the other Instagram-ready photos we’re so familiar with these days. In between the photos, my sitter had…


Parenting in a Pandemic: How to Develop Stronger Family Relationships During COVID-19

The COVID-19 pandemic has undoubtedly affected us. It has increased our worries and concerns about physical health. COVID-19 has added to the existing challenges parents face and has also created greater awareness surrounding the fragility of mental health. Yet, the second wave has also paved the way for a larger discussion on ways to promote mental well-being….


The Long, Slow Path to Progress

I stopped writing for nearly two years. I had intended to return to my Life and Whim blog long ago, but various circumstances too mundane and uninteresting to recount got in the way. At least that’s how I rationalize things in my mind. Certainly, the COVID-19 crisis didn’t help, but my departure long predates the…