It’s easy to claim the titles of mother/father or mum/dad, they’re a biological thing or even a role demarcation. You are, or you are not, a mum or dad. Being a parent, on the other hand, is a different kettle of fish. You can be a mother or father without ever actually being a parent. To be a parent requires a person to actively parent – to guide, nurture, hold, love, support, cherish, discipline, nourish and be present to a child. Not all at once and not all of the time, but certainly a significant portion of it. This is not about making the child the center of your focus, as that too can be detrimental to their own perception of their place in the world, but that the parent’s focus contains the child. One of the biggest inhibitors of this is our own ego. The part of ourselves that …