When our country’s service members are killed in action, they aren’t alone in making the ultimate sacrifice. Their families also bear the burden. Char Fontan Westfall continues to carry the loss of her late husband Navy SEAL Jacques Fontan, but she’s learned how to grieve and how to live again. Westfall met Fontan when he was serving at the Navy base in Jacksonville, Florida, as a rescue swimmer instructor in 1996. She was home from college that summer working as a lifeguard and swim coach, and their paths crossed almost daily. “He was an absolutely wonderful man. He was funny, very into his family, his friends, very loyal, loved sports—I have never seen or heard a man who could recite so many facts about all different sports teams, not just the teams he liked but across the board in general. It was crazy,” Westfall said. Fontan pursued his dream of …