A young man I know drives to work from Front Royal to the traffic-tangled roads of Northern Virginia. He recently told a mutual acquaintance that he uses the hour-long trek to prepare his mind for the day’s tasks. On the way home, however, he spends that same drive decompressing from work and readying himself to cheerfully greet his wife and young children. When he arrives home, his first act is to tell his wife how much he appreciates all she has done for their family that day. I wish I’d possessed his wisdom when I was his age. In the movie “Cool Hand Luke,” the warden of a prison strikes an inmate, Luke, with his club and then utters one of the film’s best-known lines: “What we’ve got here is failure to communicate.” Today we often have a failure to appreciate. Most of us, myself included, often fail to express …