Dear June,
What is the etiquette for buying a wedding gift for a couple who are both marrying for a second time? They will be getting married at the justice of the peace and then will honeymoon in the Caribbean. They are both in their 60s.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Wedding Guest
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Dear Wedding Guest,
The general etiquette for second weddings is that the gifts would be smaller than for first weddings. Some believe that gifts for second weddings are altogether optional, but I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable attending a wedding without bringing a gift of some sort.
However, if the couple is only getting married by a justice of the peace and you haven’t been invited, I don’t think there should be any expectation that you give a gift. I would still send a very nice card, and if you’re particularly close with either the bride or the groom, I would give a gift if you think it will mean a lot to them….