I don’t know about you, but I’m a little tired of reading the same tips over and over about how to calm down and destress. I want other options besides slowing my breathing when my chest feels heavy, or questioning the worst-case scenarios running through my head. That’s why psychiatrist Judson Brewer’s new book “Unwinding Anxiety” is so refreshing. Yes, it has tips—but they come later in the book. In fact, his main point is that tips alone won’t help those of us who struggle with anxiety. Brewer shows how anxiety exists inside the habits of our everyday lives—and habits are sticky. Habits like shallow, tense breathing don’t go away just because we tell ourselves to breathe. As crazy as it sounds, our brain is attracted to these anxiety habits because they create some sense of reward. Implementing tips and tools skips an important step, Brewer argues. Before we can …